The Hidden Symptoms of Self-Doubt.
Self-Love and Self-Worth are the flip sides of a coin, do you agree? The one fuels the other. Personal Power is the result according to the quality of self-love and self-worth.
Personal Power for me is synonymous with the personal freedom to be truly you giving you permission to show up bigger in the world and making a bigger impact in your life, business, relationships, etc.
For most people life doesn’t look that way and we often wonder – I did anyway – what is the secret? What am I doing or not doing? I found it is not so much of doing or not doing, as being. Our doing happens from our being.
There are a number of hidden symptoms of the lack of self-worth that result in you either being the victim or the victor of your life determining your personal power and personal freedom.
Self-worth is made up of complex layers of frames of mind and parts that make up the whole and it is to work through these different layers and parts and heal them.
As they are healed the whole becomes solid, aligned and congruent.
Self-doubt is an obvious symptom and it is the consequences of self-doubt that activate other hidden symptoms. Let’s take a closer look.
The first one that comes up is perfectionism and I bet you say, “Of course, I know that!” Sure, but you probably didn’t know that it is linked to the fear of failure, of making a mistake. Perfectionism is a set of vague or unspecified criteria that is unknown and can’t be measured and because of that it stops you from moving forward.
If you had specific measurable criteria, then you could compare your output and make adjustments. Now that you don’t have anything to compare to, you don’t have clear evidence and you assume it is not right.
The irony is that it is only in putting something out there and learning from mistakes that we can achieve perfection. So perfection is not a destination, it is an ongoing process of continuous increments of improvements.
Perfectionism lets you wait until everything is in place before you take action. However whatever you are waiting for is weighing you down and slowing you down.
As you are reading this, memories of past projects are probably coming up for you. How much time and energy have you wasted in waiting and only to realize that it was totally unnecessary?
The thing is, there is no failure, there is only feedback. What if you could not fail?
What would that open up for you?
Procrastination goes hand in hand with perfectionism. Actually procrastination is a consequence of perfectionism. And again fear is the underlying factor. The fear of failure, but also the fear of success. More than failure or success, it is the consequence of failure that we fear.
However the consequences that we fear are assumptions. If you struggle with self-worth then this is your watertight exit plan. They feel legitimate and real in your body and you believe it as such. No wonder fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real!
When you flip your assumptions into empowering beliefs you give fear the boot and change your life forever!
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